When the hardest thing about “love thy neighbor” is your neighbor
I often have great ideals. I’m all about being “missional”. Love God, love others. Yes! I want to reach my neighbors, make an impact, be that person in the neighborhood who has an open door and is known for generous hospitality.
So what does this mean for those of us who want to live missionally and love our neighbors?
Loving our neighbors requires healthy boundaries
“When we begin to set boundaries with people we love, a really hard thing happens: they hurt. They may feel a hole where you used to plug up their aloneness, their disorganization, or their financial irresponsibility. Whatever it is, they will feel a loss. If you love them, this will be difficult for you to watch. But, when you are dealing with someone who is hurting, remember that your boundaries are both necessary for you and helpful for them. If you have been enabling them to be irresponsible, your limit setting may nudge them toward responsibility.”
So about those neighbors of mine…
We can still be a blessing to our neighbors, while being wise in how we do it.
God can help us discern the root issue and greatest need and how we should respond in the moment.
This moment I felt called to extend some grace in a difficult time of grief. I will address property boundaries on another occasion.
If we don’t learn to set boundaries, community suffers. If we don’t step out in love we risk missing out on the gift of participating in God’s kingdom work. Let’s pursue the wisdom of both.